Hi Wyatt. I'm really sorry you're in such a hard spot. After I got over my initial anger, you need to ask yourself what the fallout would be to you if you did or did not cooperate. It's hard to have a kite festival if the CoC doesn't know who to contact or what is needed. This is America and you are under no obligation to hand over your info, but there are so many factors you just can't get into it all on a forum. You have to ask yourself what you would like to see come out of it.
Personally, I would tell them to go scratch if they don't want to utilize you, but just take from you. Is it really that clear cut of a situation?
PS three months for the CoC to get it ready isn't enough time and any featured fliers are probably already booked, right?