It really does help to have an experienced flier beside you! It can be very overwhelming at first. The learning curve for quad flying is initially very very steep, there is a lot of trial and error but with help from someone you can get through it much faster. The first time I grabbed the controls of a revolution kite, I could not control the thing, it would go up, start spinning and crash down. I ended up tangling the lines very very bad.
My 2nd instructor was Jynx, she showed me how to attach the lines and launch the kite and keep it in the air. Thanks to her, I had a bit of control of the kite and I could fly left and right but not very good, it was very fun. What followed after that was lots of crashes, broken spars.
My third instructor I would say was Jay and Kelly .. Jay taught me the importance of the trim on the top and bottom lines, to also fly the kite with purpose instead of crazy and to make small adjustments and slower smoother flight. I also learned the catch and throw from him as well, a fancy trick. He also taught me how to better turn the kite.
The rest I have learned on my own by watching.
You will initially be intimidated when you see the precise control other fliers have, trust me, you will get at their level at some point. Today thanks to all the help I've head, I can call myself an experience flier. I have absolute control of my kite and flying is so much more fun and rewarding.